I am all too familiar with the idea of soulmates and twin flames, and the fairy-tales that two people are meant to be together and will not be able to live and enjoy life without each other. In my sojourning through life, I have been exposed to many relationships that seem so perfect outwardly but inwardly, are falling apart. I have experienced quite a few relationships and have witnessed people fall in love and fall out of love many times in one lifetime. As agonizing as this on-again, off-again pattern of romance may seem, life goes on.
So many people choose to settle for relationships that don’t make them happy just because they’re too scared of being alone. I know of so many human beings who opt to stay in joyless relationships just because they think it’s the best option that they have.
Many people have been pushed to the limits, they have become so desperate to erase the tag of being single that they would willingly latch on to the next guy or girl who shows them the least bit of attention. And this is so sad. But no matter how depressing your love life may have been, you should never put yourself in a situation like this.
But who am I to judge, right? I’m only just another imperfect human after all. I’m still trying to figure out many things for myself too. And I can barely decipher all the facets to your story. However, I like to think that when it comes to this issue, I make some damn good sense. I firmly believe that being in a relationship should never be the ultimate priority in life. Rather you should aim at being happy and getting the best of life within the limited time you’ve got.
You don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy and content with life. Relationships and marriage shouldn’t necessarily be a goal but a means to actualizing happiness.
Never allow your desperation to direct your actions. Never let your insecurities lead you to make decisions that will turn out bad for you in the long run. Life some times throws a lot of thrash at us but we shouldn’t just accept whatever comes our way. We can’t afford to be compromising way too much to the point that life becomes unbearable. We can’t be so lenient to the point that we fail to find joy and happiness in our own lives.
You have to know that being alone is far from being scary. You have to know that being alone doesn’t mean that you are unlovable. Being alone doesn’t mean that you are sick in the mind and that’s why no one seems to want to be around you. You should never have to equate being alone to being lonely and depressed. You should always be able to find comfort in your own solitude.
Being alone is not a curse that you have to whine about every single day of your life. You should never be afraid of being alone just because you think society is going to judge you for it. If you embrace your solitude, then society is going to look at you and singlehood in a new light. You can be a beacon of hope for all the single people in your life. You shouldn’t let the insecurities that other people have in their own lives bring you down.
You should be proud of the life you live. You have to know that your life is beautiful regardless if you are in a romantic relationship or not. Your relationship status does not define your life. You are more than the mere sum of your parts. And you have to know that.
At the end of the day, you only have so much time to make the most of in this world. You are not invincible. You are not omnipotent. You don’t have the power to turn back time. Whatever time you use and lose, is time that you can’t get back. That’s why it’s important for you to never waste your time on the people who aren’t deserving of it. Time is a finite resource.