They say no relationship is perfect. But we all know couples who seem to be in the ‘perfect relationship’. They clog up our news feed with gushing statuses and inappropriate selfies, making us feel bad about our relationships.
However mouthwatering such relationships may seem, take a chill pill. It’s all a facade. A recent study has found this kind of ‘relationship bragging’ to be just another way of masking insecurities.
An extensive survey of more than 2,000 uk adults, carried out by relationship support charity relate, discovered that more than half, 51 per cent, of Millennials and nearly two thirds, 39 per cent, of the general public say they make their relationship look better to others than it truly is.
What’s more, 42 per cent of Millennials and 27 per cent of respondents admit to using social media platforms like Facebook or Instagram to give the impression that their relationship is perfect.
Earlier this year, Nikki Goldstein, a Sex0l0gist as well as relationship expert, claimed that this type of behaviour is an indication that someone is “seeking validation for his or her relationship from other people” and that taking relfies – relationship selfies – means that couples are missing out on the most vital moments.
Madeleine Mason, a Psychologist, dating coach and relationship expert has the same opinion. He stated that; there are a number of reasons why couples want to portray success when things are far from being rosy.
“People crave attention, and positive stories are likely to be celebrated, liked and commented on,” she tells the independent.
“In other cases, some feel pressurised to display success for fear of coming across as unsuccessful, and a number people want to accept as true that things are going well, so by curating a positive image they attempt to trick themselves into thinking things are fine.”
Mason adds that social media and reality TV Shows also feed into this perceived desire to “keep up with the jones’”.
“While i think putting forward a facade to ones community about the true state of affairs has been common throughout the generations, it’s more apparent in an online community, which is mostly subscribed to by Millennials,” she explains.
“The consequences can be that many people are more miserable than need be and there is a greater is of mental health issues as poor relationships are not dealt with.”
According to the study, the majority of us are tiring of the perception of a perfect relationship, with 92 per cent of people admitting they would benefit if everyone was more sincere and honest.
The study also discovered that the majority of Millennials, 87 per cent, aspire to having a relationship for life and that a third, 33 per cent, of participants said their relationship had survived some form of infidelity.
Speaking of the findings, relationship Counsellor Dee Holmes said: “As our research shows, there seems to be a lot of pressure today, particularly amongst Millennials, to give the impression of the ‘perfect relationship’.
“We’d most likely all benefit from being more sincere and honest with each other about our relationships and realising that nobody’s perfect, however it may seem on the surface.
“Having been a relationship Counsellor for several years and in my own relationship for 35, i know that enduring and fulfilling relationships don’t just happen – they require hard work, humour, and may benefit from activities that give it a boost such as counselling during tough times.”