Life is a Court of thorns and roses. What we want may not be what we end up getting. But that doesn’t stop us from FANTASIZING about the rosy things of life that we desire.
In love and relationship matters, fantasizing about a fictional or imaginary partner can be fun. However, living a life of fantasy/ daydreaming about what is far beyond our reach can be sometimes distressing — Except of course you are fantasizing about your real life partner.
A new research published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin has found that fantasizing about your current partner can actually make your relationship stronger.
Researchers undertook a study to ascertain how fantasies about a partner and fantasies about someone else affect relationships.
Four different students (admittedly a tiny sample size) were examined in separate investigations. In the first two studies, people in relationships were asked to fantasize about their partner or about someone else they thought was attractive. They were then asked to rate their interest in relationship-building activities.
It was found that those who fantasized about their partner were more keen on doing things with their partner that were beneficial to their relationship than those who fantasized about other people.
Next, the participants were asked to track their fantasies and their relationship over the course of six weeks and note down any positive or negative feelings they experience.
Researchers established that the more people fantasized about their partner, the more they found their partner appealing. Not only that, fantasizing about one’s partner was also found to decrease negative perceptions about the relationship.
In that way, fantasies are said to help create an almost cyclical effect: you begin to view your partner as more attractive and feel more positive about the relationship, which makes you fantasize more, and the cycle continues.
In addition, fantasies can do wonders for your se× life– according to Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D., author, former dominatrix, and CEO of Attainment Studios. “Personal se×ual desires and fantasies are normal and healthy, even when we’re with a partner.
“However, for a deeper connection, bringing your partner into your fantasies emotionally and physically can turn se× into an er0tic dance between our imagination, emotions, and bodies.”
So keep looking at that picture and fantasizing about your partner, and don’t forget to tell them all about your fantasies. That’s the best way to turn them into reality.