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ROMANCE OR SHOWMANCE: ARE THESE SOCIAL MEDIA RELATIONSHIPS FOR REAL?

Written by chofam1

‌Social media relationships lately seem so out of tune with relationships in the real non-fictional world. It’s becoming more difficult to tell the difference between a true “romance” and a “showmance”.

Isn’t it a big wonder why 80% of women on social media say they are in a relationship, but on the contrary, 80% of guys claim to be single? This doesn’t add up correctly. Who really are the girls dating? Are these social media relationships for real?

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Here are Jesica’s relationship updates in just a span of six weeks!

“…In a relationship with….” “I love the single life” “I praise God, the boyfriend of the boyfriendless” “Guess what, he just gifted me a gold necklace” “Guys, I’m off the market”

Can’t these updates can be likened to someone who keeps flipping channels in search of some interesting show to watch?

With the advent of the social media, we have become highly mercurial — trying at every instance to match up to the fast growing and constantly changing world technology. Our lives and relationships have become so volatile such that — what we write differs from what we want, and what we get is worlds apart from what we claim to have on social media.

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Many relationships on social media aren’t actually romances but showmances that would only last for as long as the show time. People get into relationships for a whole lot of wrong reasons, from not wanting to be lonely to just needing someone to show affection only for a while.

Many relationship statuses on social media have varied meanings or implications contrary to what the author intends to express. For example “I am single” may mean “I feel single right now” or “We are having a serious fight”. “In a relationship” could mean “I am OK being single”.

SHOWMANCES AND THE BANDWAGON EFFECT

Socially, men and women alike want to be valued, to be seen as precious and held in high esteem by others. And since everything precious is often possessed by someone, no one ever wants to say they are single. Being single is synonymous with being unloved, unwanted or not having a high value. This is what makes many who are single to pretend that they are in a relationship.

Social media has made all relationships seem sweet and rosy. People more often talk about the sweet aspects of their relationships but keep the rusty side close to their chest. They’ll try all they can to publicly showcase their romance, when in reality, it is more of a showmance.

The best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it on facebook

You and your partner can relate with each other on social media, comment on each other’s pictures and socialize anyhow you want, but you must learn to keep certain aspects of your relationship to yourselves.

However, don’t get it all mixed up, Social media in itself doesn’t ruin relationships, rather letting others have a say about your private affairs does.

Stop acting single on social media while paying less attention to your significant other. This will ruin your relationship ten times faster than cheating would.

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