In any relationship, no one is ever perfect. No matter how perfect a person may seem to be, there is always a fault in him. It is human to have flaws. And we have all come to accept the sad reality – that our imperfections mark the distinctions that make us different from any other. However, because no one is perfect does not infer that we steep our standards deep down beyond acceptable limits. It should not mean that we settle for whoever or whatever relationship we find ourselves in. Rather than seeking for the partner with the least flaws, you can dwell more on the positives and seek the more perfect one.
The saying “no one is perfect” have made many women settle and feel content in toxic relationships. Sometimes these relationships are even life-threatening. They resolve to stay on, hoping for a positive change. But there are some traits in a man that no woman should ever put up with – no matter how above average he may seem to be.
Here are some of the habits no woman should ever condone from her man.
POSESSIVE AND CONTROLLING
He treats you like a prize he has won over – trying to dominate and control your every move. He takes you for one of his properties, and so should dictate how your life should be run. Possessiveness is not entirely a bad trait, a little bit of possessiveness from a man can be good, but only if he can tame it with utmost self-control. Truth is, most of these guys rarely can put themselves in check. They are more like drunken control freaks.
Short-temperedness is another NO NO. It is true that we all get angry, but how we express our anger is a thing a greater concern. Some men get violent while others would just walk daintily from the scene. In a nutshell, showing displeasure by shouting, screaming and fisting every stuff around is what differentiates a little boy from a man. A real man should be able to express himself, no matter how upset he may be in the most civilized way.
NOT KEEPING TO PROMISES
Sometimes due to uncontrollable factors, he may fail to keep to his promises. That in a good sense is understandable. But when it becomes too periodic, and for no just reason, he decides to change his mind on taking you out or getting something he earlier promised and which he can afford, then that’s a problem. You must have a rethink on such a relationship because rarely do such men change.
Jealousy in every relationship is normal and healthy, but only if it is balanced with trust. A real man should trust his woman enough to not have to suspect or question her every move. Apart from the fact that this attitude can really be mind-wrecking, it shows that he completely lacks faith in you. And trust is the core foundation on which all relationships are held firmly in place.
You always hear him say phrases like “I don’t like it” “you better not do that because I detest it”. True, all men have preferences, but a man who works with the thinking that everything should and must be to his satisfaction is not worth your time. He only sees you as part of his life and you are there solely for his pleasure – completely ignoring your feelings. This is totally wrong, you don’t want to spend a lifetime with such a man.
All men tell little lies once in a while, and not all the time. But a real man would try as much as possible not to lie to the woman he cares most about. A man who is a serial liar is no less cranky or shady. Really, you should have no business with such men.
DRUG OR ALCOHOL ADDICTION
Drug or alcohol addiction is a social problem that sometimes is not easy tackle. You may choose to stay in the relationship and help cure his addiction, that’s no big deal. The problem is, if he is not desirous of quitting, then you have no business staying in that relationship. You are only going to get yourself hurt. As a matter of fact, it’s too dangerous.
MUST WIN EVERY ARGUMENT ATTITUDE
The idea of arguments between partners is to foster friendship and learn from each other. But when it becomes an act of competition on who knows more or who knows better, you will most definitely have a problem. A man who can never see anything from multiple perspectives or accept the fact that he is wrong is no different from a little child. He is in a competition with you and derives satisfaction from winning. Deep within, he most definitely has “esteem” and “confidence” issues.