I can recall the very day a lady smartly walked up to me saying “hey handsome, love your cute looks. Would you spare some time so we could both go grab some coffee? Can I have your number? I would really love to have a chat with you”. Momentarily, I freaked out, dumbfounded, I couldn’t even mutter a word. Judging by where I come from, a lady directly making the first move on a man is perceived as deviant. I felt much relieved on realizing that I was only being pranked.
However, guys, think of this. How would you react if a nice looking lady walks up to you and bluntly asks you out on a date? Strange, isn’t it? But there are other ways women ask men out and we don’t really feel much like it. In a quest to know more, I went out in search of answers. Here is what I found.
Ladies, here are some tricky ways you can ask a guy out or make him ask you out and not appear desperate.
1. ASK FOR DIRECTIONS EVEN IF YOU KNOW WHERE YOU ARE GOING
Apart from the fact that it’s a good way to start a conversation, Men love to help women. If he is equally interested in you, he should be able to pick it up from here.
2. MAKE INVITING OVERTURES
Our eyes especially are also a formidable communicator of our feelings. In fact, none verbal communication can relay the message two times more effectively than words.
3. USE A WELCOMING SMILE
That killer smile is enough to calm his nerves. It’s a proof of a happy and comforting personality. All men love happy women. A smile is a calm non-verbal way of saying “you can approach, I don’t bite”. If you’re in doubt, try this and you’ll surely thank me after.
4. COMPLIMENT HIM
Compliment his dress sense, beard or excellent performance on stage. Make him understand that you also fancy a lot more about him. In any way, just give him a clue.
5. HELP OR ASK FOR A FAVOR
You can ask him to help fix your ribbon or you may decide to help him with carry some boxes. Just be unique, have a positive mindset and be confident.
6. INITIATE A CONVERSATION
Be bold enough to start a conversation. The idea that if he truly loves you, he should be bold enough to make the first move is so old-fashioned. As a matter of fact, if a man is to approach every pretty woman he comes across, he is going to be spending more than half his time doing just that. And that’s a good reason you shouldn’t wait on him.
7. USE THE SOCIAL MEDIA
Social media offers the best platform you can express yourself easily and create a deeper connection with anyone you would barely find it so easy relating to.
Interacting with a guy on the internet gives you a better advantage – as most people online have their guard down. On social media, you don’t have to worry about being too nervous, too flirty, witty or silly. And this could break the barriers that would have made you feel less confident to interact on a one on one basis.