Life comes with a pack of challenges. There are always numerous hurdles all humans have to confront. Not every moment in life is so rosy. Sometimes things go bad. It sure seems like bad things are constantly competing with “good”, making life a mountain of crests and troughs. Like a flipped coin, there are times it would seem as if each toss of life keeps landing on its other side of ‘hurt and pain’. We keep getting hurt and we stay down on this wrong side of the life coin for too long. It is then we get to know that life is never fair. But it is only by going through the ugly side of life that we can learn to appreciate the good side.
The wounds on our minds may heal but they still leave a mark in us – a scar. The scars become a part of us. On a constant basis, our minds keep playing the record of our past – of the disapointing memories and the hell we have been through. It would take so much in courage and strength to get back at our feet, to stand firmly and declare that WE WANT MORE. To believe in our ability to do better than the limits we have programmed our minds to think we can never exceed.
Few times we have come across women who have gone through these challenges of life. You may easily develop a liking for her. But falling in love with her is a different play entirely – she would unconsciously feel a natural urge to resist. She has become hardened, as tough as old boots, not easy to break, neither easy to peruse nor manipulate. Deep down beneath that tough shell, she is broken. Broken to the point of no fixing – or maybe she can still be fixed and you are just the right man for the job. But if only she would ever let you in. And you must have to get in, for the damage is purely internal.
Loving this woman requires you to be patient like a saint, stoic like a dove and you must learn to deal with issues equably never losing your temper. You must understand that deep down beneath, she’s not as complex as she appears to be. She’s soft as silk but only broken. You have to set a constant reminder that this woman have had her fair share of life’s trials and tests. Having been challenged time and time again, She’s too careful not to get hurt one more time – especially not by you. She has been through a lot making it hard for her to trust that easily.
Judging by what she has passed through, its no big deal pushing you just as hard. She never realises that she is doing that though. To her, it’s only a simple test. And if you truly love her, you should be able to pass this test with ease.
Of course she may be exceedingly emotional or pyschlogically unstable but only because of what she’s been through. She can still be fixed! not immediately but in time. More importantly you must learn to live with her scars. You should learn to love her together with her unstable nature and all her imperfections. It is true that she’s always making it difficult for you, but you are going to keep loving her because the truth is you really do.
FEW TIPS TO LOVING A WOMAN WHO’S BEEN HURT TOO MANY TIMES
1. Understand that she is afraid of falling in love and getting hurt yet again. She is never letting you in right away.
2. Make her understand that love is not pain and in spite of her stern resistance, you are never giving up on her.
3. Make her feel more confident in herself and use every opportunity to grow some trust.
4. You must convince her that despite her damaged self, she is still worthy of true love and happiness. And you are the only one who can give it to her.
5. Take it slow, be patient, do not rush at getting intimate with her.
6. Be sincere with her always, let your word be what you mean and always be true to your word
7. Lastly, if you are not a hundred percent sure about your feelings then you better stay away!