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WHY HE FINDS IT HARD TO SAY THE WORDS “I LOVE YOU”

Written by chofam

The three word sentence “I LOVE YOU” however controversial is one of the greatest tools that can make or mar some relationships. While some people so very keenly value the “I love you” phrase, others don’t even find it significant. There are several other ways to express love and affection to your man or woman without having to use this phrase. Words of affirmation, acts of service or kindness, quality time, physical contact and the most preferred gifting are many but just a few. However, some women would rather have you constantly spell it out to their hearing many times as possible. This is what some men find somewhat hard to live up to.

From findings, here are some of the reasons why your man may not be saying I love you all the time:

1. HE’S NOT SHALLOW MINDED:

Continuous use of the phrase makes it lose its meaning, in time it would only sound like a daily or hourly routine.

Believing that simply saying “I love you” very often keeps the connection is a very faulty way of assessing love and intimacy. He may have other non-verbal ways of expressing his love, affection and care for you as earlier listed without having to say I love you. Study him carefully and find this out. If it still bothers you, it’s no big deal if you talk to him about it. It would make you understand him better.

2. HE’S BORED OF THE PHRASE:

He may have been saying it to you when the relationship was still young, but at some point it gets boring saying “I love you” every now and then. Perhaps he believes he’s grown past the level you both were when the relationship was much younger. When this happens, you’ll hear much less of the phrase from him while the works and actions remain unchanged or gets even better.

3. IT’S NOT ABOUT THE PHRASE:

Notice that we don’t say the words to our siblings and parents who we love very dearly but it doesn’t change anything close to how we feel or behave towards them. People you truly love or who truly love you don’t necessarily need those words to be said frequently because “it’s all buried in the deeds and not the words“. Try to see if he shows love, affection, care and all other signs that matter most in your relationship, that’s what really counts.

4. HE BELIEVES IT WILL ONLY MAKE HIS LOVE FOR YOU SEEM A LOT CHEAPER

There is this saying that action speaks louder than words. Saying I love you frequently without a corresponding proof that he actually loves you is a rather cheap way of expressing love. If he truly loves you, he may want to prove this fact instead of saying it over and over again.

5. HURTING EXPERIENCES:

Some times painful experiences forces a rash decision. Who knows, he might have been hit badly by a loved one, close friend, spouse or family member who always used those words to express their affection and care for him.

6. HE DOESN’T LOVE YOU ANYMORE:

As much as there are several good reasons why he’s not saying the “I love you” phrase to you, it’s equally advisable to ask him with the aim of truly finding out why he stopped or why he’s not been telling you he loves you. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know the fate of his love for you.

7. VALUE:

Saying it less often increases its value than when it’s being said too often. There’s more power in those three words when you hear it once in a long time, as this will make you value and believe it’s real and meaningful since it’s just not being said all the time. Going by this, issues and minor relationship challenges could be solved with the phrase, especially when it’s being said after a very long time.

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