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WHY DOES HE TREAT ME DIFFERENTLY AROUND HIS FRIENDS

Written by chofam

It’s very normal to experience this. Your man treats you differently when he’s with you around his friends. I think the issue here is not in the difference in his behaviours towards you when with friends but what his treatments portray. It could be negative or positive, depending on how comfortable, uncomfortable or mature he is; behaviours always vary.

Here’s a few reasons why he treats you differently around his friends :

1. YOU ARE HIS GIRLFRIEND AND NOT HIS FRIENDS:

You may want him to treat you like he treats his friends whether good or bad, but it really can’t be so. You need to need realise that you are his girlfriend and not his friends. The line between this two very bold and one can’t be mistaken for the other.
Ask yourself these questions for a clearer understanding:
Do you always act same way to every person? Do you say things you’d say to your mother to a friend? It’s even impossible to treat two different friends same way.

2. HE’S IMMATURE:

As Earley said, behaviours around friends ;negative or positive are what you should be considering and not the fact that he treats you differently when with his friends because it’s very normal. Immaturity will be the case when he decides being very intimate with you or when he only convicts his friends you two are mere friends through the way he treats you.

3. HE’S SHY:

If he decides to be a follower, acting like you are the one carrying him along or showing him how to be in a relationship. This might be attributed to shyness. Shy people do this often because they are more concerned about what is being said about them than their happiness.

4. HE’S A LEADER:

He wouldn’t want to be seen as being soft, a weakling or feminine before his friends, so he would rather show his genuine character garnished with fierceness and manliness which maybe normally expected of him.

5. HE’S CONCERNED WITH WHAT HIS FRIENDS THINK OF HIM:

He believes he already has your respect and got you on his side, and now he’s more concerned with gaining his friends respect.

6. COMFORT:

This goes both ways, the way he behaves to you when he’s more comfortable with you is entirely different from the way he treats you when he’s more comfortable with his friends than with you. Lookout for this.

7. HE LIKES YOU:

His likeness for you can actually affect the way he treats you before his friends. Same goes for when he doesn’t like you, he equally treats you in directly opposite way.

8. HE’S SHOWING OFF:

Maybe he’s proud having you around him and needs to show off to his homes, especially if you are very attractive. You really can deny him that as it might not be about you but how the action makes him feel.

9. HE’S UNDER PRESSURE:

Sometimes his friends can pressure him to act differently from his normal self. You can only know when you find the slight drop in his confidence during the drama.

All of this could be true or false, you’ll be the best judge depending on your personal findings, but one thing is sure, every behave comes with a propelling force which means there’s a reason for every action or treatment gotten, never ignore them. But follow them wisely.

About the author

chofam

Ernest Edim is a blogger and IT consultant with relevant sufficient knowledge and understanding of personal relationships, he's also an author at chofam.com, he motivates the heck out of you. He's also a relationship enthusiast and a freelancer. You want to connect with him....at ernestedim@gmail.com.

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